How to Let Go

When you have to get over it, a lot of times it feels impossible. You go to google, you search for broken heart quotes, hoping that will make it better. Most of them only increase your emotional suffering. I had to write my own in order to claw my way out of the pain. I'll put my heartbreak quotes in bold so they'll stand out. You try this approach on. You'll see, the following suggestions, when taken, work within two weeks to greatly reduce your suffering:

Realize that part of what hurts is not reality. It's the pain of losing the picture you've kept creating in your own mind of how wonderful things would be if he/she'd just get over that other woman/man, be ready for commitment, get a job, quit the bottle, or whatever.

CHOOSE to create different pictures.

All of us find certain types of people, certain behaviors, and certain looks repulsive. Each of us has our own, personal list. Put yours down on paper. Then, every time you miss him/her, and every time you go to the bathroom... picture the one you miss so terribly and whom you've already figured out isn't coming back with a row of festering zits all around their __________ (insert their feature you love best here). Picture them with a greasy, sleazy personality, hawking lugies at your mother's church. Picture it in full color, include sound, odors, details. You own your brain. It believes whatever pictures you create regularly. Create pictures that help you get over rather than pictures that prevent getting over.

And, by all means... stop listening to tearjerking, obsessive songs. You know the ones... "I can't live without you, breathe without you, dance without you. I can't get over you, stop loving you, etc." That's bull! That's the way the songwriter felt the day he wrote that song. For all you know, he got over it the next day, and here you are, clinging to the words like they're going to help! Maybe you feel like your love wasn't real if you don't hurt really, really bad for a long, long time. Or, just possibly, all those obsessive songs have convinced you that unrequited love is romantic. BULL!

Cuddling up with someone is romantic. Hurting for months or years after someone is long gone is just foolish. Listen to Mariah Carey's A Hero, Destiny's Child I'm a Survivor, Gloria Gaynor's I will survive, Enrique Iglesias' I Will Survive, Alabama's You Can't Keep a Good Man Down, Ronnie Milsap's Like a Button off of my Shirt, Desirree's You Gotta Be every day, all day long. Make those "getting over" pictures in your head every time you think of him/her, and then just see if you don't feel less obsessed two weeks from now. In the meantime, check out these emotional pain-killers.

Always remember that pain is necessary and suffering is optional. It's always YOUR choice.