Communication......

Is that the problem of asian people that is difficult to express something out from their mouth,especially something good like praising about you or showing their love to you?Or it is because we are growing up in the environment that not allowed us to simply say out what we wish,coz we will get scolded because of that?and this causing such called communication gap,we hardly talk what we feel to our parents and we don't tell them what we actually feel and they are guessing what we think,all these is just like a guessing game,you guess what i think and even assume that that is my opinion and i also don't want to talk to you what i actually want and feel,just let you do what ever you want,and sooner or later,this end up to be quarrel,cold war and even a break of the relationship.

Just feel lucky as i grow up till now,i still able to speak out what i think and what i want,and also feel glad that i got the opportunity to say out my opinion,no matter they accaept or not,this is what i think,you can give suggestion and i will think about it.Really need to appreciate this.I think communication with people is a life learning process,we communicate with people everyday,and sometimes all the communication can come out with a better relationship and we can understand a person more by communicating with them,but if we are not careful ,it can also end up with quarrel and then spoilt the relationship.for me,i think it is quite difficult things to handle,so now i am learning it now.....

What normally you use to communicate with others?For me,for opinion and suggestion,i prefer to say it out verbally,coz i think it is a direct way and we can know instantly from others expression whether they want to listen to you or whether both of you are in the same channel or not.And i also feel that chit chatting is a relax way interacting with your friends,we can say out our opinion,we know what others are thinking,we can feel how exciting when one says out something happy,we know how sad a people is when (s)he sharing her/his worries with you,all is real time.

But for some matter,i will choose to write it out,maybe i am not used to show something very inner from my heart which i think when saying it out may not really show what i actually think,or maybe i think is very shy to say it out,or maybe even the person you think maybe writting what you think is better than takling to him/her.Coz you know maybe (s)he will not simply accept what you say and (s)he needs time to digest what message you want to convey to her/him.

I always use both of this method interchageably with friends,especially now i am in hometown,i use sms,msn,chat room and also e-mail to keep in touch with friends ,exchanging news and also sharing of thoughts.But i don't think it is quite sufficient sometimes,just using one sms which the words is limited can't really convey the correct message,the people looking at the sms from the other side may not feel and know what actually you like to say,and if (s)he wants you to explain further,then you still have the room to clarify yourself,but how if she is just deel angry and don't let you to defend yourself?Then the realtionship just end like that?I think it is not only between friends,even between the person that you closed to,you sometimes have the same problem too.

This recall me one of the incident that happened on Yanzi,the fans of her are complaining that the Warner Music did not really care of the fans and Yanzi also seldom interacting with them through her official website,then one day she wrote on the web there,"What do you want me to do?",this sentence further caused the fans feel angry coz they think Yanzi can't do anything more,but later she explained the meaning of that sentence,her actual meaning is what the fans want her to do for them,so from there,it is not really that easy for one knows what we think,we need to say it out or explain further,then maybe the problem of miscommunication can be reduced,um..communication really a big "xue wen" hor?I am learning it,how about you?